Develop a good relationship
Know your hot buttons (or shark music)
Set the environment up for success
Teach skills more frequently than you punish behaviors
Fill your child's emotional piggy bank at least 5 to 1
Reframe the problem
Develop smoothly running schedules, routines, and transitions
Listen with empathy
I want to re-do these over the summer, to be shorter and more concise, but here they are for now.